Monthly Archives: February 2022

Go Along to Get Along… Not so much…

25 Friday Feb 2022

Posted by in Actions, Authentic, Choice, Courage, Decisions, Insecurity, Leader, Leadership

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Bob Marley wrote a song titled One Love, and one of the lines is… “Let’s get together and feel alright.” Does anyone remember that? Sorry if that is stuck in your head now… Anyway, too often in leadership, that is what is wanted. Leaders are saying, “Let’s get together and say that you agree, and we will all feel alright.” Have you ever been in that conversation? Well, I call that… Go along to get along mentality.

Go along to get along… I found this definition on the internet of this idiom… To conform to general expectations so as not to disrupt or endanger one’s sense of security or belonging or to agree with others or do what they want in order to preserve harmony. Is it the right thing to do? Is it ok for you to speak up if you disagree? Will you be labeled as one of those who does not fall in line? You look around the table, and everyone is in agreement, knowing that half of them are thinking the same thing that you are but unwilling to be “that person.”

I think it boils down to the security or insecurity of the leader and of you as well. Why do we live in a society where we must put our values aside to “keep the peace?” Now, I’ll be the first to say that we should major on the majors and let the minor stuff stay minor. I also believe that we must choose our battles, per se. However, when the line in the sand has to be put on notice… This is where insecure leaders are not welcoming of others’ questions or suggestions and forbid a disagreement, for they feel they are always correct in their own infinite wisdom. They want everyone to go along… Leadership that carries this mantle only wants the “yes” people.

In his first inaugural address, Thomas Jefferson stated, “Every difference of opinion was not and could not be a difference of principle.” But guess what… That is exactly what happens when we set aside our voice when we are asked or sometimes told… go along. Finding value in what we know instead of what we think carries greater leadership responsibility. Truth becomes irrelevant when someone’s personal agenda takes priority. But yet… this is said, “I need you all to go along with this…” Strong, secure leaders put what is right ahead of their personal feelings for the greater good. It takes courage.

I acknowledge that there might be a person and charge that makes the final decision, and that is their prerogative. But when they limit the thoughts of others, they steal what could be. I’m pretty sure I’m not the “go along to get along” person. Are you? There will always be a reason why or why not, and you are the only one who can answer…

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2022 J Clay Norton

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I’m entering the “Transfer Portal”

18 Friday Feb 2022

Posted by in Decisions, Entertainment, NERDLE, Transfer Portal, WORDLE

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A parody for today with some little truth, perhaps… Hope you enjoy it…

I really like you… BUT… if this statement ever comes up in a dating relationship, odds are you are about to break up. Welcome to the transfer portal of college sports. That’s about how I see it. The transfer portal only works in the Fansville, Dr. Pepper commercial. They really did not need a kicker, but he brought Dr. Pepper through the portal with him, which made all the difference to his acceptance.

So, why does a player enter “the portal?” Here are a few reasons why I believe they do and my response to each in italics…

  • A player is unhappy with the coach, playing time/position, and/or team culture – but that player chose to go there…
  • A coach tells a player he doesn’t fit their program anymore… Sorry coach, you should have done a better job recruiting…
  • The school doesn’t have the major they want to pursue – the player should have known what the majors were upon choosing that school…
  • The coach leaves, and a new coach has a system that doesn’t fit you… I’m ok with this… However, my dad and I disagree on this. He says a player signs to play at the school; I say a player signs to play for the coach…
  • A player has remaining eligibility but wants to finish by pursuing grad school somewhere else – I’m ok with this if they have graduated…
  • The family situation has changed, and you wish to be closer to home – I’m ok with this, but it is very subjective…

Anyway, all these transfers… it seems that it has become a free agency market. At some point, will college athletics become over-populated? It looks like a used car lot. And then there are the “I’m transferring” statements put out by athletes. Have you read some of them lately? Here are some great “tag lines…” 

  • Upon much thought and prayer…
  • After talking to my parents, family, and loved ones…
  • I will be forever grateful…
  • I will cherish my memories and friendships…
  • This is the toughest decision I have ever made…
  • I am taking my “talents” to xyz school…
  • It is with a heavy heart…
  • I’m not sure where I’m going…
  • Respect my decision…

The idea of posting your statement of transferring with all the high-def graphics wears me out. The bottom line, the athlete, is breaking up with the college and moving on. Does a statement really need to be made?

So… If you are still reading, then I need to let you know… I am entering the transfer portal, and here is my statement…

After much consideration, time alone, prayer, and speaking with my loved ones, I would like to announce that I have entered my name into the transfer portal. I would like to thank those who brought me to WORDLE. Their encouragement and daily challenge have made me a better thinker. I have enjoyed my time and the friendships I have made, but I feel it best to move on. I am leaving WORDLE and taking my intellectual talents to NERDLE and GLOBLE. NERDLE offers me the intellectual stimulation of mathematics on a deeper level that WORDLE could not provide. GLOBLE offers me the intellectual stimulation of relearning and identifying countries across the globe to enhance my geography. I will forever cherish my time at WORDLE and look forward to what the future holds at NERDLE and GLOBLE. Yes, both platforms want my time. Please respect my decision. #gonerdle #gogloble

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2022 J Clay Norton

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National School Counseling Week…

11 Friday Feb 2022

Posted by in Actions, Amazing, Appreciation, Attention, Authentic, Counseling, Effective, Encouragement, Intentional, Kindness, Promotion, Purpose, Servant, Sincerity, Value

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This week, February 7-11, is National School Counseling Week. According to the American School Counselors Association, the emphasis is to focus public attention on the unique contribution of school counselors within U.S. school systems. Well, I just happen to know a school counselor who fits that emphasis quite well.

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Let me introduce you to a school counselor I know. She is a school counselor with 21 years of experience. What she does day in and day out amazes me. Of all the things she does, the one that amazes me the most is that she takes an intentional interest in every student in the school building. Along with that, there are individual and small groups, peer leadership, helping with after-school clubs, scheduling, new student meetings, parent meetings, student plans, encouragement, etc… you get the idea…

I don’t really remember school counselors growing up. I do not remember one in elementary or middle school. If we had one, I did not know. We had one in high school, but all I thought he did was make out our student schedules. His name was Mr. Leonard. He and I talked about baseball cards a lot, and my senior year, he was our assistant baseball coach.

Anyway, as I think about what this school counselor does and her role as a school counselor, I can see her passion for promoting it. She works after hours at home and during the summers. So many things are behind the scenes. She is a staunch advocate for what the definition of a school counselor should be. Most importantly, she is for all students and their success.

I’m not sure about all the counselors out there, but I do know a good many. Those who are successful have a servant’s heart and a genuine concern for students’ social and emotional needs. And I think to myself, isn’t that what educators and all of education should also do?

Over time, I have seen many counselors who impact not only at the school but also in the community. In many ways, they are the unsung heroes of schools. Since this is National High School Counselors Week, tell your counselors thank you. I’m pretty sure they will appreciate it.

And by the way, for those who do not know the school counselor I talking about, it’s Heather, and I’m married to her, and she’s the counselor at Sumner Hill Junior High School in the Clinton Public School District. For those who know us, many say she is a great counselor because she lives a daily practicum of counseling me… and they are probably right. But, nonetheless… she’s a great school counselor.

Happy National High School Counselors Week to the school counselors who make a difference. The value you bring makes changes in many lives.

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2022 J Clay Norton

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Intolerance that creates a divisiveness divide…

04 Friday Feb 2022

Posted by in Decisions, Intolerance, Leader, Leadership, Opinions, Passion, Tolerance

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I’ll open today’s blog with this quote that I read the other day in David Baldacci’s book The Gambling Man… “Free speech is not really free if it costs you all that you have.”

Thoughts? I have a few… Also, these are my opinions as well. So, for instance… my daughter just graduated college and is no longer in the sorority she was in. This week, she found out that the “national people” of the sorority have decided to take “God” out of the oath they say every week in chapter. They can no longer pray at that time as well. Someone, somewhere, decided they didn’t like it. Enough “fuss” was made, and the next thing you know… I use this as an example to go along with the quote above. It seems that when issues arise, there will be differences of opinion, which is ok. However, divisiveness is created when those differences create intolerance and push an agenda.

You know I have some strong opinions for those who know me, and I’m ok with that. There are even a few that I am passionate about. But the difference for me is that while I might disagree with someone on something, I’m not going to get divisive about it. Others are entitled to their opinion, and I’m fine with that. However, when someone or a group pushes their ideology, draws a line in the sand, and states that I have to adhere, agree, or compromise my opinion… That’s where the idea of agreeing to disagree breaks down.

The breakdown comes at the hands of those who want tolerance for their opinions but become intolerant of others’ views. And trust me, it goes both ways. Divisiveness is seen in all demographical aspects of society. Side story… I remember a few years ago we went to Boston. While there, we went to the John F. Kennedy Presidential Library and Museum. One of the displays was replaying the presidential debate between Kennedy and Nixon. I was amazed at how cordial, civil the discussion was. There were even moments where they joked with each other. What has happened where two opposing views are just that?

“Free speech is not really free if it costs you all that you have.” Ever since reading that, I’ve been chewing on it. We are now seeing the effects of this, I believe, more and more. Once intolerance takes its stand, free speech, as we know it, ceases to exist. As it is, once someone has their mind made up, the truth doesn’t matter anymore. The divide creates a chasm that no bridge can ever seem to span.

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I’m not sure where society is going with the intolerance of tolerance. But I do know this, free speech just might cost us everything we have at some point. We must decide what is worth fighting for. I know what that is for our family and me.

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2022 J Clay Norton

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