What we think is negativity can be very positive for your leadership health… Think guardrails…

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As a former math teacher, I could fundamentally explain that two negatives make a positive, but that would probably bore you. However, when it comes to leadership, the equation is far more interesting. In leadership, many negatives can actually yield profoundly positive results.

One of the most powerful and most underutilized tools in leadership is the word “no.” Or perhaps it is simply misunderstood, because it almost always comes across as negative.

Many leaders struggle to say it and to accept it. We want to be seen as supportive, empowering, and collaborative. At the same time, we want others to say yes to us. We fear that saying “no” will disappoint people, limit opportunity, or damage morale. And honestly, we do not like hearing it either.

So, as leaders, do we say yes too often? Yes to this? Yes to that? Some say yes to whatever is asked. Others say yes simply to keep the peace.

But every yes costs something.
Time. Energy. Attention. Clarity.

When “no” is never said, it can open the floodgates. What begins as a small ripple effect can quickly become a current that pulls the entire organization off course. An organization slowly loses alignment. Vision becomes fuzzy. Priorities compete. Teams burn out. Ironically, the attempt to stay positive by avoiding negativity can cause long-term, sometimes irreversible, damage.

Healthy leadership understands that “no” is not rejection; it is protection, even if we only see it clearly afterward.

No protects the mission from distraction.
No protects the team from overload.
No protects values from compromise.
No protects culture from confusion.

Saying no requires courage because it invites discomfort. It may lead to difficult conversations. It may create temporary tension. But clarity always outperforms chaos. A focused organization will accomplish more than a scattered one.

From a Christian worldview, this paradox is not surprising. The Ten Commandments are primarily stated in the negative: “You shall not…” At first glance, they appear restrictive. Yet they are profoundly life-giving. Each “do not” protects something beautiful: our trust, our faithfulness, our integrity, our rest, and our reverence. The negative wording guards a positive outcome. Boundaries create freedom. Limits cultivate flourishing.

Leadership works the same way. Clear “no’s” protect the organization’s mission. Constructive criticism protects future success. Honest confrontation protects relationships. When handled with humility and wisdom, negative moments become protective guardrails rather than destructive forces.

In fact, a leader’s health can often be measured by their ability to understand that “no” can be a positive, whether said or heard, without guilt. When you are secure in your calling and clear on your purpose, “no” becomes easier. It becomes strategic. It becomes generous. It becomes positive.

So perhaps the math lesson still applies after all. Two negatives make a positive, not because negativity is good in itself, but because it can be redeemed. Leadership health is not the absence of negativity. It is the ability to transform it. When you learn that “no” creates life-giving boundaries, you discover that what once felt like subtraction or division is actually addition and multiplication.

As you step into your role today, remember that you are not just an educator and leader but a shaper of the future. Your actions and decisions profoundly impact the lives of those you guide. Go, be the great educator and leader that our future needs.

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2026 J Clay Norton

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Educational Leadership and the Responsibility of an Audience Face

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One day last week, while driving to school and listening to the radio, I heard a broadcaster joke that he had a “face for radio.” It is a familiar phrase, but it caught my attention in a different way this time. As I listened, I started thinking about how often we talk about “face” in leadership, the face we put on, the face we show in difficult moments, or the face others come to expect from us.

The more I reflected on it, the more I realized that educational leaders are constantly showing their face, and often their facial reactions, whether they intend to or not. Leadership, especially in schools, is always happening in public.

So, here is what I think about educational leaders and the idea of having an audience face.

Educational leaders are rarely out of view. Classrooms, hallways, meetings, community forums, and informal interactions all function as public spaces. Leadership in schools is not only about decisions made behind closed doors, but about how those decisions are embodied in front of others. This is where the concept of an audience face becomes central to effective educational leadership.

An audience face is the consistent public presence a leader brings into shared spaces. It is shaped less by isolated moments and more by patterns, including how a leader responds under pressure, communicates priorities, and navigates uncertainty. In schools, where trust and morale are fragile and hard won, this presence matters deeply.

Why an audience face is necessary in educational leadership

From a leadership perspective, having an audience face is not optional. Schools are complex organizations, and ambiguity from leadership often creates instability. A well-formed audience face helps reduce that uncertainty.

A constructive audience face provides:

  • Clarity: Leaders signal what matters through what they emphasize, tolerate, and address publicly.

  • Consistency: Predictable leadership behavior builds trust and reduces organizational anxiety.

  • Psychological safety: When leaders are steady and transparent, educators feel safer taking professional risks.

  • Cultural direction: How leaders show up teaches others how to behave, respond, and lead themselves.

In this sense, the audience face is not about image management. It is about sense making. People look to leaders to interpret the environment, especially during moments of tension or change.

The role of discernment, not performance

A common misconception is that an audience face requires emotional distance or artificial positivity. In reality, effective leaders practice discernment. They understand that not every reaction belongs in public space and not every concern should be processed collectively.

An intentional audience face helps leaders:

  • Decide what should be addressed publicly versus privately

  • Regulate emotional responses without denying them

  • Hold steady when others are uncertain or overwhelmed

This is not suppression. It is professional judgment. Educational leaders carry positional power, and how they express emotion, frustration, or doubt has ripple effects throughout the system.

When an audience face becomes a liability

An audience face becomes harmful when it shifts from alignment to performance. Educators are highly sensitive to inconsistency, and trust erodes quickly when public messaging does not match lived experience.

Warning signs include:

  • Saying what sounds right instead of what is accurate

  • Projecting confidence without follow through

  • Avoiding difficult truths to preserve approval

  • Becoming overly attached to maintaining a leader image

In these cases, the audience face functions as a mask rather than a stabilizing presence.

A reflective leadership practice

Strong educational leaders treat their audience face as an ethical responsibility. They regularly ask:

  • What do my public actions communicate about our priorities?

  • What patterns am I reinforcing through my responses?

  • How does my presence affect trust, morale, and decision making?

Ultimately, leadership in schools is not defined by visibility but by impact. The audience face is one of the most powerful tools leaders have to shape culture, signal values, and guide organizations through complexity. Used intentionally, it strengthens trust and coherence. Neglected, it allows confusion and misalignment to grow. In educational leadership, how one shows up in front of others is not secondary work. It is central to the work itself.

As you step into your role today, remember that you are not just an educator and leader but a shaper of the future. Your actions and decisions profoundly impact the lives of those you guide. Go, be the great educator and leader that our future needs.

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2026 J Clay Norton

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Perspective for a New Year: Reflections from The Family Circus

The older I get, the more sentimental I become. I’ve always had a touch of it, but time has a way of deepening emotions and sharpening memories. I love Christmas, and I often tell Heather how happily sad I feel when we wake up on December 26th. The celebration has passed, the house is quieter, and the season officially closes. Still, life moves forward, and that particular Christmas becomes a memory, one we carry with us into the next days.

This past weekend, January 4, 2026, The Family Circus comic, created by Bil Keane and now drawn by his son, Jeff Keane, offered, I believe, a quiet but powerful reminder about perspective that feels especially relevant for educators as we begin a new year.

In the comic, Bil, the father, drags a discarded Christmas tree to the curb. The needles are falling, the task is inconvenient, and the season is clearly over. But the perspective that matters most is not Bil’s, it belongs to the tree. Floating above the scene are the tree’s memories: being chosen by the family, decorated with care, surrounded by laughter, and standing proudly as the centerpiece of shared joy. From the tree’s point of view, its purpose was fulfilled. It mattered. It brought people together.

To view the comic strip, click here: https://comicskingdom.com/family-circus/2026-01-04

The same object, the tree, represents both burden and beauty, depending entirely on perspective.

As educators step into a new year, we often carry a similar mix of hope, exhaustion, and resolve. New initiatives, new students, new expectations, and all the old that carries over, arrive again, all at once. In the middle of that swirl, leadership can feel like carrying something heavy, important, but awkward, tiring, and often unseen by others.

Educational leadership is much the same.

By January, many school leaders are focused on what feels like the “tree at the curb” moment… budget constraints, staffing shortages, test data, compliance tasks, initiatives that didn’t go as planned, and teachers taking days off and subs (or no subs) are in the building. These realities are real, and ignoring them helps no one. But leadership grounded only in problems can unintentionally crush the spirit, our own and that of the people we serve.

Perspective does not deny difficulty; it reframes it.

For educators, perspective means remembering that today’s challenges are often the byproduct of earlier successes. A growing program brings complexity. High expectations signal trust. Accountability exists because what happens in schools matters deeply. When leaders help their teams reconnect daily work to its deeper purpose… student growth, belonging, and opportunity, the weight feels different. The same task, seen through a different lens, becomes meaningful rather than merely exhausting.

Perspective is also a leadership responsibility. Teachers and staff often take cues from how leaders interpret reality. When leaders consistently highlight only what is broken, people shrink. When leaders balance honesty with hope, naming challenges while also lifting up moments of impact, people lean in. They remember why they chose this profession in the first place.

As the new year begins, effective leaders might ask themselves a few grounding questions:

  • What am I carrying that feels heavy right now, and what meaning is attached to it?
  • What moments of success or connection am I overlooking because I’m focused on what’s next?
  • How can I help others see the story behind the work, not just the work itself?

The Family Circus comic reminds us that perspective is often invisible unless we choose to notice it. If the tree could think (and we read that it is), it wouldn’t see itself as discarded, it would remember the joy it helped create. Educators, too, may feel worn down at this point in the year. Yet memories can be made in our buildings every day… the learning, the laughter, the growth, are reasons the work educators do matters, and those small victories can lead to big wins.

As we step into a new year, may we lead with eyes wide enough to see both the burden and the beauty, and help others see it too.

¹ Keane, J. (2026, January 4). The Family Circus [Cartoon]. Comics Kingdom. https://comicskingdom.com/family-circus/2026-01-04 

As you step into your role today, remember that you are not just an educator and leader but a shaper of the future. Your actions and decisions profoundly impact the lives of those you guide. Go, be the great educator and leader that our future needs.

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2026 J Clay Norton

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Wishing you a Mathematical Christmas 2025 – The ACME Math Guys and the Santa Conundrum

Well, the ACME Math guys are back… This year we read our fan mail from the past year and answer a young person’s question regarding Santa and his intake of calories… 

Allen Marett and I started doing these videos a few years ago and  just wanted to have some fun and spread some Christmas Math Love. Anyway… Here is our video for 2025. Hope you enjoy, The Santa Conundrum 

Here are the links to the previous videos for you enjoyment…

2020 https://www.facebook.com/100013664620751/videos/1080633885735422/

2021 https://www.facebook.com/100013664620751/videos/639236927490192/

2022  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6pLBmnYxxs

2023 https://youtu.be/ioRd1uJi650?si=eZ66ELZqG2-9-6Wf

2024 https://youtu.be/tnd2fv0sZsw?si=X5jZbPOvur488rSf

As you step into your role today, remember that you are not just an educator and leader but a shaper of the future. Your actions and decisions profoundly impact the lives of those you guide. Go, be the great educator and leader that our future needs.

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2025 J Clay Norton

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