A Tribute to Coach Stan Jones… Leadership Beyond the Game

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My first true encounter with Coach Stan Jones was in 1994, when I interviewed at Shoney’s with him to be his assistant basketball coach. We talked about basketball, life, and just about everything in between. Near the end of our conversation, he asked me one last question: “If you heard someone talking bad about us at a nearby booth, would you get up and say something to them?”

I told him I would.

When Coach Jones got into town this past Wednesday, we had supper together, and I reminded him of that interview. I told him I still did not know whether my answer to his question was what got me the job. He replied, “You got the job, didn’t you?”

Yes, Coach, I did, and all these years later, I am still grateful.

I have thought about that question many times since 1994, and I have used it in every interview I have been part of since. At first, I just wanted to see what people would say. Believe it or not, the way someone answers tells you quite a bit about them. I believe Coach Jones wanted to know whether I would stand up for the people I worked with and be loyal to the team. I went to Shoney’s hoping to get a coaching job, with no idea that I was also meeting someone who would influence me as a basketball coach, husband, dad, educator, and leader for the rest of my life.

The next evening, hundreds of people gathered at the Mississippi Sports Hall of Fame to honor Coach Jones and raise money for the Sherard Shaw Foundation for Pediatric Cancer Research and the McLean Fletcher Center. His basketball coaching career gave everyone plenty to celebrate, and seeing so many people there showed how far his influence has reached.

Coach Jones’s coaching résumé is impressive. He led Jackson Academy to back-to-back overall state championships before coaching at the University of Miami, with the Washington Wizards in the NBA, at Mississippi State, and then for more than two decades at Florida State. In 2019, he was inducted into the inaugural class of the College Basketball Assistant Coach Hall of Fame. He has coached at levels most of us only watch from a distance. I admire those accomplishments, and I value what he taught the people who worked and played for him even more.

I can say without a doubt that Coach Jones is one of the best coaches I have ever seen. His playbook was about as thick as a Sears catalog and probably could have been used as a boat anchor. I studied it all the time because he expected every player to know not only what they were supposed to do, but what the other four players were supposed to do as well. He wanted us to understand how the whole team worked together.

Then there were his motivational talks. Listening to Coach Jones could give you chill bumps. His players would have run through a wall for him because they knew how much he believed in them and how much he expected of them. Even while challenging us to give our best, he showed us what servant leadership should look like, and was the model of what transformational leadership is.

Coach Jones knew far more than plays. Inside and outside the gym, he held people to high expectations and treated them with respect. He valued execution, and he valued the people doing the work. You never had to guess where you stood with him. He could be brutally honest, but he was fair, and he was willing to listen when you saw something differently. As a young assistant, I was learning how to coach basketball, and I was learning just as much about how to work with people.

Coach Jones would often say, “Be the best,” “Don’t stop believing,” and “Never forget where you came from.” I have carried those words with me long after my coaching days. They have encouraged me through challenges in education and leadership, and they have mattered at home as well. He pushed people to reach for more while reminding them to stay grounded and remember those who helped them along the way.

He also showed me how much a person can accomplish without holding the head coach’s title. Coach Jones had already been a successful head coach when he became a college assistant. For nearly three decades, he helped build programs, prepare teams, and develop players from that role. His example taught me to give my best to the work in front of me and to invest in the people beside me.

As a lifelong mentor, Stan has helped shape the future through the many people he has influenced. We need to remember the value of that kind of leadership and offer it to others. Leadership needs more people like Coach Stan Jones.

I have shared this quote from the movie The Emperor’s Club before, and I believe it speaks to Coach Jones’s influence too:

“A great teacher has little external history to record. His life goes over into other lives. These men are pillars in the intimate structure of our schools. They are more essential than its stones or beams, and they will continue to be a kindling force and a revealing power in our lives.”

I hope you have a mentor in your life like the ones I have had and still have. We need people who will invest in us, regardless of our age, so that we can invest in others. That is true in coaching, education, and every other part of life.

When I think back to that table at Shoney’s, I smile. I was in awe of Coach Jones then, and I was just beginning to learn who he was. His last interview question was about standing up for a team. His example over the years has taught me much more: to be dependable, to give my best, to keep believing, and to care for people beyond the role they play.

Coach Jones, thank you for giving me the job. Thank you even more for the conversations, the lessons, your example, and a friendship I will always value. I am a better person because our paths crossed. Seeing hundreds of people gather to honor him reminded me that many others could say the same. I hope I can pass along even a smidgen of the influence he has given me.

As you step into your role today, remember that you are not just an educator and leader but a shaper of the future. Your actions and decisions profoundly impact the lives of those you guide. Go, be the great educator and leader that our future needs.

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2026 J Clay Norton

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Have We Forgotten What Good Leadership Feels Like?

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Most educators want to work around good leadership. Why would we not? We want leaders who communicate clearly, make thoughtful decisions, support their people, and remain focused on what is best for students. We want to be part of an organization where leadership strengthens us rather than drains us.

This idea came to me, once again, while reading Sinclair Ferguson’s book, Things Unseen: One Year of Reflections on the Christian Life. In one of the devotionals, Ferguson writes about the importance of hearing good preaching and maintaining a desire to be around it. After reading that particular devotional, I thought, Yes, and could the same not be said about leadership?

So…

There is nothing wrong with wanting good leadership. In fact, good leadership is essential to the health of a school, district, university, or any other educational organization, or any organization, for that matter. However, I sometimes wonder whether we give as much attention to how we respond to leadership as we give to the quality of the leadership we receive.

We are often quick to evaluate our leaders. We examine their decisions, question their communication, and notice the areas in which they fall short. Some of that evaluation is necessary. Educational leaders should be held accountable, and poor leadership should never be excused simply because someone holds a position of authority.

At the same time, leadership is not experienced in a vacuum. Certainly, there are leaders who can suck the air out of a room, but the attitudes of those being led also matter. We can become so accustomed to analyzing everything a leader says or does that we stop genuinely listening. We hear the words, but we do not take them in. We attend the meeting, read the email, and sit through the professional development, yet we remain detached from the message. Instead of asking what we can learn or how we can contribute, we immediately begin identifying what is wrong.

There is an important difference between discernment and cynicism.

Discernment helps us recognize what is effective, what needs improvement, and how we can move forward. Cynicism assumes that nothing worthwhile is coming. Once cynicism settles into an organization, even good leadership can become difficult to recognize. People may become so accustomed to weak, inconsistent, or self-serving leadership that they gradually lower their expectations. Eventually, they begin to say, “It is what it is,” and that may be one of the most dangerous statements in educational leadership.

When people accept ineffective leadership as normal, they stop expecting clarity. They stop asking for meaningful direction. They learn to survive without encouragement, collaboration, or a shared sense of purpose. They find ways to accomplish their work in isolation, depending on a few trusted colleagues rather than the larger organization. Over time, their appetite for good leadership begins to disappear because they have forgotten what healthy leadership feels like.

Then they encounter a truly effective leader.

They meet someone who listens before speaking, communicates with honesty, and makes decisions based on mission rather than ego. They see a leader who provides both support and accountability, recognizes the value of others, and is willing to make difficult decisions without losing compassion. Suddenly, they realize how long they have been functioning without the leadership they needed. It is almost as if dead skin begins falling away and they are finally able to breathe again.

Good leadership has a way of reminding people what leadership is supposed to be.

It creates an environment where people want to grow. It does not demand loyalty through fear or position; it earns trust through consistency, humility, competence, and care. People want to be around that kind of leadership because it brings out something better in them. They think more deeply, collaborate more freely, and become more willing to take responsible risks. They are not merely completing tasks. They begin to see how their work connects to a purpose larger than themselves.

However, being around good leadership also brings responsibility. We cannot expect leaders to communicate while refusing to listen. We cannot ask them to invite collaboration while remaining unwilling to participate. We cannot request honest feedback and then become defensive when it is offered. If good leadership is going to nourish an organization, the people within that organization must be willing to receive it, reflect on it, and respond to it.

This does not mean that followers should agree with every decision or remain silent when concerns arise. Healthy organizations need thoughtful questions, respectful disagreement, and honest feedback. Good leaders should welcome those things. But there is a difference between constructive engagement and constant resistance. One helps an organization improve; the other slowly weakens its capacity to move forward.

Perhaps all of us need to ask two questions.

First, what kind of leadership am I providing?

Am I offering the people around me clarity, encouragement, direction, and meaningful opportunities to grow? Do my words and actions strengthen the organization, or are the people I lead forced to find what they need somewhere else?

Second, what kind of follower am I being?

Am I listening with the intention of understanding? Am I willing to receive correction, consider another perspective, and contribute to the direction of the organization? Or have I become so detached that I automatically dismiss what I hear?

Educational organizations need good leadership, but they also need people who recognize it, receive it, and respond to it. The longer we remain around healthy leadership, the more our understanding of leadership should deepen. We should develop a stronger desire for integrity, clarity, service, accountability, and purpose, not only from those who lead us, but also within ourselves.

Ultimately, we should want to be around good leadership because good leadership helps us become better educators, better colleagues, and better leaders. It restores our belief in what an organization can become when people are valued, the mission remains central, and leadership is exercised for the good of others.

But perhaps the greatest evidence that we have truly experienced good leadership is not simply that we enjoyed being around it.

It is that, because of it, we learned how to lead others better. And… if you asking what does good leadership look like? Look to Jesus.

As you step into your role today, remember that you are not just an educator and leader but a shaper of the future. Your actions and decisions profoundly impact the lives of those you guide. Go, be the great educator and leader that our future needs.

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2026 J Clay Norton

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When “What Works?” Is the Wrong Question

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As educational leaders, we are constantly looking for what works. We study assessment results, compare data, develop improvement plans, introduce new programs, and monitor whether those efforts are producing the outcomes we expected. This is an important part of leadership because schools and universities should always be looking for ways to serve students more effectively.

However, in the devotional I’m reading this year Things Unseen: One Year of Reflections on the Christian Life , by Sinclair Ferguson (highly recommend if you are looking for a devotional), recently caused me to think more carefully about the question, “What works?” In this particular devotion, Ferguson warned that success can become a temptation when it is measured primarily by visible results, public recognition, or the approval of others. Although the passage was written about ministry, the principle applies just as clearly to educational leadership. If we are not careful, we can become so focused on finding what works that we fail to consider whether the methods we are using are right.

Group discussion beneath text reading: “What works?” remains an important question for educational leaders, but it should never stand alone. We must also consider whether what we are doing is right, whom it serves, what it may cost, and what it is ultimately building. When those questions guide our decisions, we are more likely to practice a form of leadership that is not only effective but also ethical, faithful, and lasting.

Something may produce the result we want and still not be good for the people involved. A new initiative may improve a particular number while placing an unreasonable burden on teachers. A policy may create immediate compliance while gradually weakening trust. A leader may appear decisive and effective, even though employees no longer feel comfortable expressing concerns or offering a different perspective. From the outside, the organization may look successful, but the people within it may feel exhausted, overlooked, or undervalued.

This does not mean that results are unimportant. Educational leaders are responsible for student learning, instructional quality, responsible use of resources, and the overall effectiveness of their institutions. We should establish goals and expect progress. At the same time, the results we achieve cannot be separated from the way we achieve them.

For those of us who approach educational leadership from a Christian worldview, effectiveness must be accompanied by faithfulness. We must consider whether our decisions are consistent with our values, whether they honor the dignity of others, and whether they genuinely advance the mission we have been called to serve. Before adopting a strategy simply because it appears likely to work, we should consider whether it is honest, fair, sustainable, and beneficial to students and those who serve them. We also need to consider whether it strengthens the organization or achieves a temporary result at the expense of the people responsible for carrying it forward.

A worthy goal does not justify an unworthy method.

The devotion also raised another issue that is common in educational leadership: the temptation to compare ourselves with others. Schools, districts, universities, programs, and leaders are regularly compared through test scores, rankings, enrollment numbers, awards, completion rates, and public recognition. Social media has intensified this pressure by allowing us to see a carefully selected picture of what others appear to be accomplishing.

Comparison can be useful when it helps us identify effective practices and learn from the success of others. It becomes unhealthy when someone else’s success begins to feel like a threat to our own. At that point, we may become more interested in finding fault with another leader’s work than in examining what we might learn from it. We may even begin to believe that diminishing another person’s accomplishments somehow strengthens our own position.

There are certainly times when educational leaders must challenge poor decisions, identify ineffective practices, or address actions that are harmful to students and employees. Honest evaluation and accountability are essential to healthy organizations. However, there is a difference between addressing a legitimate concern and criticizing someone simply to make ourselves appear more knowledgeable, capable, or successful. Constructive criticism should help move people and institutions toward improvement. If our criticism only tears down and offers no responsible path forward, we need to examine both our approach and our motives.

This leads to a question that may be more important than simply asking whether our leadership works: What are we building through the way we lead?

Educational leadership should build the knowledge and confidence of teachers, strengthen relationships with families and communities, create greater opportunities for students, and establish a culture in which people can acknowledge mistakes and continue to grow. It should also build trust between leaders and those they serve. If our leadership produces impressive results but leaves people discouraged, fearful, or unwilling to speak honestly, then we have not fully succeeded.

Leadership should never be primarily about protecting a reputation, creating a personal platform, or accumulating recognition. The authority associated with leadership is a stewardship, and it has been entrusted to us for the benefit of others. This understanding is especially important for Christian leaders because Scripture consistently connects leadership with service, humility, responsibility, and faithfulness. Our calling is not simply to achieve visible success. It is to use our influence wisely and for the good of the people and institutions placed in our care.

Successful educational leadership should include measurable improvement, but our definition of success must be broad enough to include how that improvement was achieved. We should pursue excellence, study effective practices, make difficult decisions when necessary, and hold ourselves and others accountable. We should also make certain that our pursuit of improvement does not become separated from character, mission, and genuine care for people.

“What works?” remains an important question for educational leaders, but it should never stand alone. We must also consider whether what we are doing is right, whom it serves, what it may cost, and what it is ultimately building. When those questions guide our decisions, we are more likely to practice a form of leadership that is not only effective but also ethical, faithful, and lasting.

As you step into your role today, remember that you are not just an educator and leader but a shaper of the future. Your actions and decisions profoundly impact the lives of those you guide. Go, be the great educator and leader that our future needs.

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2026 J Clay Norton

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Some Leaders Need the Drama

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I had a friend the other day who asked me a “hypothetical” leadership question. Well, I told them there really are no hypothetical questions when they are posed like that, so I asked them to just tell me the situation. They laughed, said, “You’re right,” and went on to explain what was happening. Somewhere in the middle of that conversation, I had my idea for the blog this week.

The details of the situation are not important, and honestly, the situation itself was not all that unusual and was trivial at best. Anyone who has spent much time in education has seen some version of it. There was conflict, there were different personalities involved, there were conversations taking place about other conversations, and there was enough back-and-forth to keep the situation alive much longer than it probably needed to be. Listening to the story, I thought that if I were the one having to deal with all of this, I would just as soon bang my head against the wall and give myself a headache on purpose.

What caught my attention, though, was not really the situation itself, but the drama it created. It was almost like watching a snowball roll downhill. Something that probably should have been relatively small just kept getting bigger as more people, more conversations, and more emotion became attached to it. By the time my friend finished telling me the story, my thoughts had moved beyond the original situation altogether and landed on something much more interesting: the role leadership can sometimes play in keeping drama going.

Man pours liquid onto an office fire while holding a fire extinguisher

That led me to a question that may push the envelope a little: Do some leaders actually like drama?

I think some do, and I also think that, many times, it comes from insecurity.

There is something about drama that can make an insecure leader feel important. When everyone is coming to you with the latest information, you feel like you are in the know. When people bring their disagreements to you instead of working them out themselves, you feel needed. When you know who said what, who is upset with whom, and who is supposedly on which side, it can create a false sense of influence. Before long, the leader can begin to confuse being involved in everything with actually leading something, and that is where it becomes dangerous.

Secure leaders do not have to know everything that is being said in the building, nor do they need to be included in every disagreement. They do not need people choosing sides to determine who supports them, and they certainly do not need to keep a conflict alive simply because it gives them a place in the middle of it. In fact, good leadership should move an organization in the opposite direction. We should be developing people who can talk to one another, work through disagreements, address concerns directly, and move forward without every issue eventually finding its way into the leader’s office.

None of that means a leader should avoid conflict. There are times when leadership requires us to step directly into difficult situations, make hard decisions, and have conversations that nobody particularly wants to have. However, there is a tremendous difference between addressing conflict and feeding it, and I would argue that one of the better tests of our own security as leaders is what happens when everything is going well. Can we allow people to work, succeed, solve problems, and even receive recognition without needing to insert ourselves into the middle of it?

If we are always surrounded by drama, eventually we may need to stop asking why everyone else creates so much of it and consider a much more uncomfortable possibility.

Maybe we like it there.

Want to read a good leadership book on this? Here it is: Upgrade Your Leadership: 8 Foundational Tools to Overcome Drama, Build Trust, and Thrive Under Pressure

As you step into your role today, remember that you are not just an educator and leader but a shaper of the future. Your actions and decisions profoundly impact the lives of those you guide. Go, be the great educator and leader that our future needs.

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2026 J Clay Norton

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