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Reasons I Do Not Want To Be A Bad Leader…

31 Friday Jan 2020

Posted by The Book Chamber in Actions, Leader, Leadership, Pride, Servant, Transformational, Transparent

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I do not know how many reasons I could list, but like you, I believe a list could go on and on…

The other day I was listening to talk radio, and the host said something about someone in a leadership position… yada, yada…

As I was listening to myself think, I began to talk to myself (Yes, I actually do that, and do not say that you do not). I asked myself why I did not “care for” that individual person’s leadership. I resonated back to this thought, which is one of many that I have stamped into my MO… “You can never separate who you are with what you say you believe in.” Your leadership is who you are, that is reality.

I say all of that to say this… I began listing out loud the reasons I do not want to be a bad leader… The hard part is knowing that some people are just not going to like you or agree with you on anything you say or do. Unfortunately, I do not have an answer for that. However, I do believe that as long as you do right by others and have a servant’s heart, the problem lies with other people and their thought process, not how you actually lead. Time is the actual test of this.

So… here is my list of reasons I do not want to be a bad leader…

Because, bad leadership…

Creates a lack of discipline in my life
Leads to more bad leadership
Never pleases, it only hurts
Creates a greater burden on others
Time spent in bad leadership is forever wasted
Always makes me less than what I could be
Causes others to suffer consequences
Steals what little, good leadership I might have
Chooses not to respect the thoughts of others
May influence others to have bad leadership
…and most of all…

Indicates that I am a lousy leader!

How can you tell if you are providing bad or good leadership? That answer is not our own, for it lies in the time past and yet to come. One idea that we need to come to grips with is to admit that end results do not always equate bad or good leadership. Just because something works out does not mean good leadership was exhibited.

So… what reason would you put on the list for why you do not want to be a bad leader? You fill in the blank… Because, bad leadership _______________.

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others

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“Plastic-Leather” Leadership

22 Friday Feb 2019

Posted by The Book Chamber in Actions, Freedom, Heart, Humility, Leader, Leadership, Pride

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PRIDE… It had “I” right in the middle of spelling for us as a reminder. Pride is a funny thing, and you can have it either way, good or bad in your life. To answer the “pride” question, you really have to look deep within yourself and be able to answer the hard questions.

I believe there is a vast difference between being a prideful leader and a leader who has pride. Both are everywhere but one of the two wants and needs an audience more than the other and does almost anything to obtain it.

Prideful leaders crave accolades, applause, and recognition. They live their lives drawing attention and will give it to themselves if they cannot receive it from anywhere else. Their presence of pride is lived on public identity. Listen for words of “me” and “I” in their speech.

Vinyl-cracking-1024x768I like to use the word “pleather” here as a definition for an analogy – prideful leaders are nothing more than “plastic-leather,” a sham and a fake. Eventually it will show what it truly is.

They rub enough elbows and pat enough backs to get where they want to be. Most of all, a prideful leader’s heart is hard, blocked and clogged from being able to let humility flow with the struggle of each beat. Their whole body becomes stiff, leaving them unable to bend in humility with and for others.

Here is what leaders who have pride do… THE OPPOSITE of everything above. Easy to say, right? Yes. How do you know? It shows in their actions instead of their speech. They help others without making other lives miserable. They teach and educate, not browbeat. They give confidence to others. Their pride is in the fact that they want others to succeed. Their freedom of being prideful is in their humbleness of putting others first — no “pleather” with them.

It matters not where you work or what position you are in; pride is always there. Let it be the right kind of pride in your life. Everyone around will be better for it.

I would be remiss if I did not close with this Scripture reference: “… Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble'” – I Peter 5:5 (ESV).

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Leadership Pitfalls

25 Friday Jan 2019

Posted by The Book Chamber in Actions, Humility, Leader, Leadership, Passive-Agressive, Perception, Pitfalls, Pride, Value

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Who remembers, back in the day, Activision’s “Pitfall!?” For those of you who are young and read this blog, “Pitfall!” was played on the original Atari. I remember the day we purchased the cartridge. It was in the fall of 1982, and I was ten. As soon as I got home, we started playing it. I remember two things very vividly about “Pitfall!”. One, after we went to bed on a school night, my dad came into my room, woke me up, and asked if I wanted to play a quick game. The other memory is when I scored over thirty thousand points. The cool thing was to take a picture (with a real camera) of the TV screen showing your score, mail it in, and Activision would send you an official “Pitfall!” patch. Yes, I was pumped.

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Not to go into the whole idea of the game, but “Pitfall!” was about a jungle explorer, named Harry, who had to avoid the pitfalls of water, sand, alligators, scorpions, etc. You get the picture. Harry had to run, jump, and swing from vines, to find the treasure.  It was a classic.

What made me think of that, you ask? Well, I was just having one of my many memory moments and started thinking about the connection that could be made with pitfalls and leadership. With leadership or anything else for that matter, pitfalls can be those unseen holes of missteps that we fall into sometimes. Not so much on purpose, but pitfalls are there nonetheless.

Staying with the letter “p” of “Pitfall!,” here are a few pitfalls that I believe leaders have problems with…

Perception

Is perception reality? I think not, but there are those who believe it to be true. The problem with perception is that it is yours and yours only, and that does not make it right. A majority of the time, we see things only how we want to see them, rose-colored glasses idea. So much of our understanding is tainted by the values we hold dear in our minds and hearts. It is the misconceptions that cause many problems in leadership. Whenever a misconception is made, let’s admit that it could be a wrong conclusion and do everything we can to correct it.

Pride

Pride needs no write-up. We see it every day. There will always be that leader who thinks they have all the answers. This might be the deepest pitfall of them all, actually an abyss. The hard part is sometimes we cannot avoid prideful leaders. Pride… it’s like a bad odor that keeps hanging around, and it stinks. My good friend, Allen Marret says, “Pride causes your perception to miss out on what is real.” That’s a pretty good statement. Be humble enough to know that you do not always have it figured out.

Passive-aggressive

This is the one I despise, being passive-aggressive. Leadership positions are not a utopia. The grind and the struggle are sometimes real, but leaders who lead with pouting, moodiness, and manipulation are demoralizing to others. Yes, occasionally passive-aggressive leaders make hard decisions that need to be made, but it is not until they are backed into a corner of their own doing, and someone else is looked for to blame. Be a leader who is willing to address issues head-on, accept healthy conflict, and realize that everyone is not a “yes-person.”

I hope that after reading the above pitfall list, you can appreciate the really good leaders that are leading for the right reasons — those who make it a purpose of avoiding these common pitfalls. Yes, pitfalls do creep up on us, but to be diligently looking out for them can make all the difference.  Now, go find that treasure of leadership.

Just in case you wanted to know what the patch I received looked like, here it is:

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