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Do We Know Who We Are Anymore?

08 Friday Sep 2023

Posted by The Book Chamber in Agenda, Change, Choice, Crisis, Culture, Deciding, Decisions, Intolerance, Leader, Leadership, Tolerance

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Quick question for everyone… How many of us still watch the news? Our house does not. However, like many, we receive our information, and most updates, for that matter, from phone apps and social media. Now I do love listening to talk radio. It keeps my mind off of having road rage.

Time is one of the issues; I don’t remember the last time I was at home at 5 or 6 o’clock to sit down to watch the news. Another reason is that it is depressing and can irritate you. The other reason is the “news” has already happened, and I cannot do anything about it.

I ask and say all of the above to say this… Every time I watch or listen to the news, I realize that society, in general, is fighting generational and cultural differences to a point at which right vs. wrong is becoming something way more than relative. Blame can be placed on the older generations as much as on the younger ones.

I get it; every generation has its own values, beliefs, and cultural norms that evolve over time. People nowadays often embrace new ideas and challenge existing norms, creating friction. The knowledge and belief gap that exist can make changing or influencing cultural norms difficult. I’m not against fighting the status quo (a lot of good has come from it), but we are flirting and tip-toeing in areas causing future generational ramifications and setbacks we may never recover from.

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A few thoughts…

  1. Human beings, by nature, can be resistant to change. Not to say that change is either good or bad, but we are creatures of habit. Contrasting views of cultural norms are usually seen as a threat to one’s own values or traditions, leading to resistance and opposition. We know what happens when people are threatened…
  2. There is a limited perspective of tolerance and intolerance. One side becomes intolerant when the other is not, and vice versa. It almost begs the idea that there is an intolerance of tolerance. Some beliefs do not want tolerance. There are many beliefs that I do not fully understand, appreciate or accept, but at the same time, I have no desire to. This doesn’t make me more right or more wrong, so the context of the belief becomes irrelevant.
  3. There is an identity crisis in the making. It is really hard to determine who people really are anymore. Talk about power dynamics… when disagreements occur, many feel as though their identity is being attacked. Seemingly, we are forced to adapt to their extreme as such.
  4. Who’s the authority? When you feel no one is “in charge,” you can assert your independence and autonomy however you please. Here lies a problem: imposing beliefs creates resistance to authority and an acknowledgment to a moral code ceases.
  5. Incremental change has long been happening. We see it before our eyes, while at the same time, we ask ourselves, “How did we get here so fast?” Slow change creates an absorbing acceptance when enough people encounter a belief system, be it right or wrong, and decide to take stand.

Most of the time, I think I have an answer for almost anything. But, as time moves forward and I grow older, I’m not sure anymore. I’m sure the generations before us worried about the future, and now I agree with them. It will be interesting. Cultural norms are not fixed, and they will continue to evolve.

Where you stand with your beliefs is ultimately your business. I know where I stand with mine. Some will agree, and some will disagree; to each their own. But make no mistake, cultural change is happening, and division will always be among us. Ultimately, we must look in the mirror and decide who we really are, and know that we do not have to walk around with an agenda all the time.

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2023 J Clay Norton

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Cast Your Own Shadow…

11 Friday Aug 2023

Posted by The Book Chamber in Actions, Authentic, Choice, Deciding, Decisions, Empower, Encouragement, Importance, Influence, Insecurity, Leader, Leadership, Passion, Shadows, Value

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Currently, we are watching the second season of Lincoln Lawyer on Netflix. During episode two, this quote was made “The more you live in someone’s shadow, kid, the longer it takes to cast your own.” I hit the pause button and told Heather, there is my blog for the week.

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The more I chewed on that, the more I realized that quote has gravity in so many areas of leadership. Not only individually but also as groups and corporate entities. The casting your shadow part of the quote made me realize how important it is to provide a reminder of the need to be who we are (not to say that we can do better, for we can, but that is not the point of today’s blog).

First, let me say we can always learn from others. That is valuable. However, true leadership emerges when we step into the light and let what we bring and can do be seen. Staying in the shadow of others is always comfortable, per se. At least you will always have shade… We need light to grow. Others need to see you doing that, and it helps us develop into who we are.

When we see what others are doing and succeeding, our default is to do what they are exactly doing. Take their template, stamp it onto ourselves, and wha la… we are the same. I think not. There are so many variables to consider, yet copy, we do.

With good reason, copying others can only take us so far. Leaders should be willing to cast their shadows and embrace their strengths and passions for who they are and whom they want to become based on a change that makes them better, not because they are “wanting to be what others are.” I’ve been trying to imitate Rory McIlroy’s golf swing and guess what… It ain’t working (bad grammar to prove the point).

Secondly, leadership should never overshadow others. To keep someone “shadowed” is nothing more than true insecurity. True leaders uplift their teams by providing guidance, support, and opportunities. By setting forth a leadership path, we should encourage others to do the same, creating a culture of empowerment and growth.

Casting your own shadow reflects on your strengths, weaknesses, and aspirations. Your unique qualities that drive your decisions are the foundation of your leadership identity. We push ourselves to improve our distinctive skills, not afraid to make mistakes. Casting your own shadow creates an authenticity that is leadership worthy. Leadership is not about imitation; it’s about inspiration. Leadership is not about mimicking others; it’s about harnessing your light to illuminate the way forward for yourself and those around you. Better yet, set a trail on fire.

Remember, “The more you live in someone’s shadow, kid, the longer it takes to cast your own.”

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2023 J Clay Norton

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Guard Your Attention…

24 Friday Feb 2023

Posted by The Book Chamber in Actions, Attention, Choice, Deciding, Decisions, Importance, Intentional, Leader, Leadership

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Scrolling through my Twitter feed the other day, I noticed a post regarding “guard your attention.” The post stated that television screens are beginning to appear in elevators showing the latest news worldwide. It went on to say that it was mostly bad news being offered and that if we don’t guard our attention, we can become consumed by the negativity surrounding everything of such nature.

As I thought about that and what all went along with it, I wondered how much of what I do “gets” my attention. Like all those bad snacks I enjoy, especially late at night, what I put into my stomach is as unhealthy as what I put into my mind and, ultimately, my heart. When my mind and heart get distracted, it can threaten everything and everyone around me. The world and society are ready to tear us down.

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For me, guarding my attention is not giving in to wanting to shift focus. How do you do that? Well, it continues to be a work in progress. That’s why we guard. The first line of defense is just a matter of saying NO, not going there.

Our attention is a limited resource, per se, especially in leadership. We only have so much we can pay attention to. But we continue to give it away to trivial matters that bear no fruit for our lives. Often I think about guarding our attention like managing money. When I allocate my attention, what kind of return do I get? Is it something that will profit me or something that could cause financial hardships or ruin? I like having money in my pocket, so I must make certain my attention is on what can strengthen my account.

Do we even realize how much is out there; the voices, the visuals, the… it can wear you out, and it does. It’s like silly putty and the stretch man toy; pulled in all directions and gets bent out of shape. If we do not guard our attention, it will be a hostile takeover of our minds. Let’s do what we need to set the boundary and draw the line in the sand that guards our attention and tells everyone and everything, “You shall not pass” (think Gandalf in LOTR).

Let’s go fight the good fight of leadership. Someone has to…

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2023 J Clay Norton

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Sage Advice – Don’t get all your exercise by jumping to conclusions…

10 Friday Feb 2023

Posted by The Book Chamber in Actions, Advice, Consistency, Deciding, Decisions, Exercise, Importance, Influence, Leader, Leadership, Relationships, Teachers, Useful

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First, to quote the great Paul Harvey, “You learn two things from everyone you meet. Either something that you like or dislike.” Sage advice…

I am always appreciative of the good stuff we see on social media. It is also good to follow like-minded friends. So, the other day I ran across this great post from my friend Joe Odenwald who posted the below picture with thoughts…

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So, the masterful quote by Joe’s grandfather, “Don’t get all your exercise by jumping to conclusions.” When I saw and read that, I responded to Joe that I would put it on my quote list of quotes to remember. I love hearing and learning new stuff; that quote is one of the best lately.

So, about those people who jump to conclusions… they seem to be everywhere. I’ll admit, I’ve done it a time or two myself. Not so much the older I get, but I can remember the times I have; it didn’t work out all so well. Can you remember times you have? But the question remains, why do we?

The effect of doing so is normally unwanted. I see jumping to conclusions as ignorant of the facts and not knowing the situation or the person (we see this constantly with social media and the hiding behind a keyboard).

There are actually psychological studies done on this subject. I guess there is enough material; go figure. In a blog post (and a good read) by Leandra McIntosh and Nick Hobson, People Who Jump to Conclusions Show Reasoning Errors, False Beliefs, Overconfidence and Impaired Learning a study was done by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. In that study, the researchers found that people who displayed high JTC (Jumping to Conclusions) behavior made significantly more errors, were more likely to endorse conspiracy theories, and demonstrated more knowledge corruption. I’m like, I know a lot of folks that fit these characteristics.

Let’s segue into the leadership world and tie this into education. Leaders/teachers should edge on the side of being sensitive of not jumping to conclusions. The ones who do, turn it into an art that is not a pretty picture. It takes us only a short time to see how really ineffective they are on a daily basis.

The more information out there, the more opportunity we have not to know everything. However, when it comes to making conclusions, more information is better. Without time, effort, a little digging, and, most of all, thinking, all we can do is make assumptions. When we do this, we create a persona that leads people to say, “It sure is scary how they think.”

Even worse, when leaders jump to conclusions, they will seek out others for affirmation who share a similar point of view, or they will find others who are afraid of the ramifications if disagreement is not allowed.

Really good leaders are aware that they are not perfect. We all have blind spots and biases. That’s why it is so important to be open, have independent facts, not always your own, and seek others for helpful information, even if they disagree. But many of you know this, and I’ve said before, if a person has their mind made up, it doesn’t matter what the truth is.

So, I have never thought about an exercise that could actually weaken your muscles. Still, if jumping to conclusions is the only exercise you do, I believe it weakens your mind to the fullest extent and, by default, weakens your creditability.

I’m glad my friend posted something good earlier this week that strengthened my thought process. I’m also glad that he mentioned receiving sage advice. I’m glad I have people who can provide me with the same. I hope you do as well. Now, time to exercise…

Let’s go fight the good fight of leadership. Someone has to…

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2023 J Clay Norton

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