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(T)Issues of Leadership… It’s just one letter away! 

27 Friday Sep 2024

Posted by The Book Chamber in Choice, Circumstances, Conflict, Consistency, Crisis, Culture, Deciding, Decisions, Disaster, Distractions, Education, Educational Leadership, Emotion, Emotional Temperature, Importance, Influence, Insecurity, Inspiration, Integrity, Intentional, Intentions, Issues, Knowledge, Leader, Leadership, Reality, Transparent, Trust, Understanding, Unity, Useful, Value

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I love analogies. I believe they are a better part of describing situations and are key in leadership thinking and reflection. So, today’s topic…

Let’s start with a simple yet profound observation: the word “issues” is just one letter away from “tissues.” This clever play on words serves as a powerful analogy for how personal issues can influence leadership.

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This simple play on words is a powerful reminder of how personal struggles can influence leadership. No leader has it all together, and those who think they do need to quit believing it; others know the truth. By default, I would venture into saying that many leaders carry some form of unresolved issues, good or bad. These issues might be deep-seeded from past experiences and might even be people in your unwanted circle. Still, when leaders carry unresolved issues, they burden themselves first and then affect the emotional and operational well-being of everyone around them. It’s like having the box of tissues ready handy for emotional spills (these can be good or bad also) – except, in this case, it’s needing those tissues to clean up the mess caused by unchecked issues that a leader has caused.

Leaders with unresolved issues often project their insecurities or frustrations onto others. What’s worse is that they make it seem as if you are the one at fault. I hate it when this happens. It’s like knowing a tornado is coming, and you need to run, take cover, at a right angle from that path. Whether it’s stress, poor communication, or unchecked ego (hello!), these personal challenges create a ripple effect. Everyone around becomes confused (for sure), demoralized (yes, it can happen), or even disengaged (probably so) because of the leader’s inconsistency or emotional volatility.

When leaders bring their personal issues into the working environment, they can inadvertently stifle innovation, breed negativity, and weaken the overall culture. This is where it gets serious…

But the sun is always shining behind the clouds… great leadership is about recognizing those issues and addressing them head-on. No leader is perfect, but the best ones are self-aware. They understand that their personal issues can affect their ability to make clear decisions, offer effective guidance, and create a positive culture.

Instead of burdening the team with their issues, emotionally intelligent leaders create an environment where challenges are tackled together—turning potential “tissue moments” into opportunities for growth and connection. Leadership is not about being flawless but about continually striving for improvement and ensuring personal issues don’t bleed into professional spaces. Sometimes, it is worth hearing to get out of your own way… and let’s leave the tissues for blowing our nose instead…

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2024 J Clay Norton

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Who do you want leading… A leader who leads by choice or chance?

23 Friday Aug 2024

Posted by The Book Chamber in Accountability, Actions, Choice, Culture, Decisions, Effective, Encouragement, Essence, Influence, Inspiration, Intentional, Leader, Leadership, Opportunity, Passion, Purpose, Respect, Servant, Transformational, Trust, Truth, Uncategorized, Understanding, Useful, Value, Vision, Whole

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Leadership, call it what you want, but hopefully, you can agree that it is and will continue to be a journey. It demands conscious effort, a vision that is not blinded by self, and a deep understanding of who we are individually…

So, today’s discussion compares and contrasts leading by choice vs. leading by chance. Too many times I see people who are in leadership positions who have earned their way there or thrown into the position. Is there a difference? I believe so, and by the end of reading, hopefully you will discover which is better and why…

Leading by choice…
They are the leaders who embrace responsibilities and challenges with clarity and purpose. Driven by the desire to be a difference-maker for the good of others, inspiring and creating positive change because it is the right thing to do, not because they just think it will be better. They uphold deliberate leadership that is informed and backed for growth for all they lead. They constantly look to refine their leadership, learning from truth without blinders and adapting to challenges. Leading by choice is intentional and fosters trust, collaboration, and a shared vision. They believe in others and understand the impact of aligning actions with values for all to see.

Leading by chance…
They lack the intrinsic motivation required to truly succeed in it for themselves and lack preparedness. They lead from the hip, often finding themselves in leadership positions due to circumstance or out of necessity, without an actual desire to lead. This type of leadership becomes reactive rather than proactive. Purpose and direction lack consistency in decision-making, and opportunities for growth are missed. They struggle to connect on any level and only want loyalty and engagement that benefits a self-sense of purpose. This creates a hollow leadership that causes disengagement and a lack of cohesion.

From a Christian worldview, this aligns with the idea of servant leadership, all day, every day. Such leaders by choice are better equipped to serve others selflessly, making decisions that reflect wisdom and love, embodying the essence of servant leadership that transforms integrity and conviction in and for others.

We see it every day… Those who lead by choice and those who have to lead by chance. One allows you to succeed; the other, well, they give you a chance. You might ask, “Are opportunity and chance the same thing?” I say no. Ultimately, leaders who lead by choice are more effective because they approach leadership with a passion that spills over and over into the lives of others.

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2024 J Clay Norton

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Do We Know Who We Are Anymore?

08 Friday Sep 2023

Posted by The Book Chamber in Agenda, Change, Choice, Crisis, Culture, Deciding, Decisions, Intolerance, Leader, Leadership, Tolerance

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Quick question for everyone… How many of us still watch the news? Our house does not. However, like many, we receive our information, and most updates, for that matter, from phone apps and social media. Now I do love listening to talk radio. It keeps my mind off of having road rage.

Time is one of the issues; I don’t remember the last time I was at home at 5 or 6 o’clock to sit down to watch the news. Another reason is that it is depressing and can irritate you. The other reason is the “news” has already happened, and I cannot do anything about it.

I ask and say all of the above to say this… Every time I watch or listen to the news, I realize that society, in general, is fighting generational and cultural differences to a point at which right vs. wrong is becoming something way more than relative. Blame can be placed on the older generations as much as on the younger ones.

I get it; every generation has its own values, beliefs, and cultural norms that evolve over time. People nowadays often embrace new ideas and challenge existing norms, creating friction. The knowledge and belief gap that exist can make changing or influencing cultural norms difficult. I’m not against fighting the status quo (a lot of good has come from it), but we are flirting and tip-toeing in areas causing future generational ramifications and setbacks we may never recover from.

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A few thoughts…

  1. Human beings, by nature, can be resistant to change. Not to say that change is either good or bad, but we are creatures of habit. Contrasting views of cultural norms are usually seen as a threat to one’s own values or traditions, leading to resistance and opposition. We know what happens when people are threatened…
  2. There is a limited perspective of tolerance and intolerance. One side becomes intolerant when the other is not, and vice versa. It almost begs the idea that there is an intolerance of tolerance. Some beliefs do not want tolerance. There are many beliefs that I do not fully understand, appreciate or accept, but at the same time, I have no desire to. This doesn’t make me more right or more wrong, so the context of the belief becomes irrelevant.
  3. There is an identity crisis in the making. It is really hard to determine who people really are anymore. Talk about power dynamics… when disagreements occur, many feel as though their identity is being attacked. Seemingly, we are forced to adapt to their extreme as such.
  4. Who’s the authority? When you feel no one is “in charge,” you can assert your independence and autonomy however you please. Here lies a problem: imposing beliefs creates resistance to authority and an acknowledgment to a moral code ceases.
  5. Incremental change has long been happening. We see it before our eyes, while at the same time, we ask ourselves, “How did we get here so fast?” Slow change creates an absorbing acceptance when enough people encounter a belief system, be it right or wrong, and decide to take stand.

Most of the time, I think I have an answer for almost anything. But, as time moves forward and I grow older, I’m not sure anymore. I’m sure the generations before us worried about the future, and now I agree with them. It will be interesting. Cultural norms are not fixed, and they will continue to evolve.

Where you stand with your beliefs is ultimately your business. I know where I stand with mine. Some will agree, and some will disagree; to each their own. But make no mistake, cultural change is happening, and division will always be among us. Ultimately, we must look in the mirror and decide who we really are, and know that we do not have to walk around with an agenda all the time.

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2023 J Clay Norton

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Cast Your Own Shadow…

11 Friday Aug 2023

Posted by The Book Chamber in Actions, Authentic, Choice, Deciding, Decisions, Empower, Encouragement, Importance, Influence, Insecurity, Leader, Leadership, Passion, Shadows, Value

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Currently, we are watching the second season of Lincoln Lawyer on Netflix. During episode two, this quote was made “The more you live in someone’s shadow, kid, the longer it takes to cast your own.” I hit the pause button and told Heather, there is my blog for the week.

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The more I chewed on that, the more I realized that quote has gravity in so many areas of leadership. Not only individually but also as groups and corporate entities. The casting your shadow part of the quote made me realize how important it is to provide a reminder of the need to be who we are (not to say that we can do better, for we can, but that is not the point of today’s blog).

First, let me say we can always learn from others. That is valuable. However, true leadership emerges when we step into the light and let what we bring and can do be seen. Staying in the shadow of others is always comfortable, per se. At least you will always have shade… We need light to grow. Others need to see you doing that, and it helps us develop into who we are.

When we see what others are doing and succeeding, our default is to do what they are exactly doing. Take their template, stamp it onto ourselves, and wha la… we are the same. I think not. There are so many variables to consider, yet copy, we do.

With good reason, copying others can only take us so far. Leaders should be willing to cast their shadows and embrace their strengths and passions for who they are and whom they want to become based on a change that makes them better, not because they are “wanting to be what others are.” I’ve been trying to imitate Rory McIlroy’s golf swing and guess what… It ain’t working (bad grammar to prove the point).

Secondly, leadership should never overshadow others. To keep someone “shadowed” is nothing more than true insecurity. True leaders uplift their teams by providing guidance, support, and opportunities. By setting forth a leadership path, we should encourage others to do the same, creating a culture of empowerment and growth.

Casting your own shadow reflects on your strengths, weaknesses, and aspirations. Your unique qualities that drive your decisions are the foundation of your leadership identity. We push ourselves to improve our distinctive skills, not afraid to make mistakes. Casting your own shadow creates an authenticity that is leadership worthy. Leadership is not about imitation; it’s about inspiration. Leadership is not about mimicking others; it’s about harnessing your light to illuminate the way forward for yourself and those around you. Better yet, set a trail on fire.

Remember, “The more you live in someone’s shadow, kid, the longer it takes to cast your own.”

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

Remember… Think Leadership and Be For Others…

©2023 J Clay Norton

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