Friendship Thankfulness…

13 Friday Nov 2020

Posted by The Book Chamber in Encouragement, Engagement, Friendship, Honest, Leadership, Relationships, Thankful, Thanksgiving, Transparent, Trust, Understanding, Value

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In keeping with the theme of Thanksgiving…

This past Sunday, our pastor, in his sermon, alluded to the idea of what true friendship really is and is not. As I listened and thought about that idea this week, as always… “it got me to thinking.”

We all have friendships in our lives. They come and go, change, etc. As I look back, it is funny to see our “friendship map” and where it has taken us.

Friendship is tough to define. Often, our definition of friendship is what we make it in order to meet our needs at a specific time in our lives…

Anyway, as I have been thinking about friendships this week, I am very thankful for the friends I have. Those who accept and take me for who and what I am, and most importantly – my well-being. I think there lies the true measure of friendship.

So… friendship…

First, I believe friendship only happens with people you actually spend time with. It is hard to develop a friendship if you are never around a person. And no, friendship is not the number of “friends” you have on social media.

Second, friendship needs to enjoy one another’s company. We are around a lot of people daily. Friends, sure… but is the measure of that only surface, or does it cut deep?

Third, it is hard to have friendships without common interests. I have said it time and time again, “There is something to be said about having like-minded, kindred-spirited people” in your lives. There are only so many conversations one can have on family and the weather.

Fourth, this is where it will get interesting. We have to have friends that will “get into your business.” If you cannot have honest, heartfelt conversations, then the friend status might need to be “un”checked.

Lastly, friendship must not only offer encouragement, but it must also be willing to help in a time of need. I am not talking about times where “I need a favor.” I’m talking about no matter who, what, when, why, or where… that friend will be there, no questions asked.

I hope you have friends who have the characteristics above. I do, and for that, I am whatever is beyond thankful. If you get a chance, you might want to tell them that.

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

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Is There an Intolerance of Leadership in Certain Leaders?

09 Friday Oct 2020

Posted by The Book Chamber in Actions, Culture, Decisions, Intolerance, Leader, Leadership, Perception, Relationships, Tolerance, Understanding, Value

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We are in challenging days… Everywhere we look or listen, society is____________________ (you fill in the blank).

The more I “look around,” the more I see a steady increase in what leadership should not be. Lack of leadership is running rampant all over the place. What has happened in our society that has allowed for and brought about this change? The primary reason, I believe, is we have turned away from servant-leadership and are now chasing our own selfish desires.

And there and here lies the problem… Leaders who do not value a servant-based mentality become intolerant (please note that I am not writing about areas of morality here) to the views of others. A false idea of tolerance undermines quality leadership, and many people never recognize it is happening. Intolerant leaders seem to think they can impose their leadership on others, and you have no right to question it.

Leaders who lead with intolerance of others’ viewpoints create the notion that their leadership is absolute and anything that contradicts said “truth” is only relative – for you.

This notion is where I see a fundamental shift. Many, in leadership roles, while having to “answer” to someone above them, only feel they are answerable to no one but themselves – especially if they can convince they have the best interests of others in mind or, as they say, “at heart.” This is where I say, “Please do not tell me you have my best interests in mind and then decide the decision you make only benefits you or the ones you are actually concerned about.”

As I write this, I genuinely believe you will be able to pick this topic up and almost put it into any time slot of history, past, or future, and it will still be applicable. However, due to the constant flow of information from so many different outlets, our viewing and knowledge of ever-changing leadership are much more assessable. It should not and does not take one long to recognize the difference. While that is a benefit, it also allows the disguised “leadership lie of self” agenda to continue to be pushed.

Funny thing is, while I “think” I have an answer for almost anything, I really do not have an answer for this. I do not know how to help those in leadership positions understand that by serving others, they will also benefit themselves. I suppose the only answer I have is to suggest modeling the right leadership behavior and hope others will take notice and see that there is something different about being a servant-leader first. I fear that it will take something drastic in their leadership lives to understand this…

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

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Things Leaders Should Not Say…

25 Friday Sep 2020

Posted by The Book Chamber in Actions, Authentic, Culture, Education, Intentions, Leader, Leadership, Mandates, Purpose, Relationships, Servant, Teachers, Value

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Remember growing up and hearing… “Do as I say, not as I do?” If it was not heard in your house, then you probably heard it somewhere else. Maybe there is a need for it while you are young and learn to be more mature with age, but when did you really take notice of the fact that “Do as I say, not as I do” phrase quit carrying value?

Better yet, let me drop this phrase on you… “Because I said so…” Heard that lately? The same questions from above can be asked here as well. How about this one… “You signed up for this…” or “Well, this is the way we are going to do it, and if you don’t like it…” One more, “We have always done it this way…”

Let’s look at it from an organizational perspective with leadership…

What is going on if you are hearing that from leadership in your work environment? Questions that quickly come to mind… What does it say about the culture of your work environment, and what is it saying about them, as a leader, directly?

As for culture, I believe that it is set by the group as a whole but is determined and sometimes developed by the expectations of leadership. To start, let me say that I believe culture is learned behavior until an agent of change comes in, or there is a paradigm shift. Too often, we forget that our culture is what we make it, not always what is mandated. However, if leadership is not abiding in and with the same parameters of their own expectations, then a disconnect is easily seen. Once it is seen, that disconnect creates breaks that has a hard time healing.

As for why a leader would have to say the above statements, well… Often leaders will say they operate on a different set of “rules.” Really? Different roles, yes, but rules? Nothing brings resentment to the boiling point quicker than a leader asking someone to do something they are not willing to do themselves, or stating they do not have to follow certain rules because they are in a position of leadership.

Last thought… What we say as leaders matter, how we actively live what we speak out matters even more—any saying that limits the originality or the why of your culture shows a mindset that is unwilling to grow, resentment will build, and relationships will suffer.

If a leader is having to say comments like these mentioned above or any others that come to your mind, then odds are they are very close to losing the culture, the respect, and, most of all, their leadership. They might still be in “charge,” but it is truly by title only. It might be due to their insecurities, knowing they really do not understand how to be a leader.

It would be interesting to hear from readers as to what you think leaders should not say… I bet we could get a pretty good running thread…

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Lesson plans? They probably do not include these things…

28 Friday Aug 2020

Posted by The Book Chamber in Agenda, coronavirus, covid19, Culture, Decisions, Distance Learning, Education, Educational Leadership, Leader, Leadership, Lesson Plans, Teachers, Understanding, Value

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Lesson plans… who really needs them at a time like this?

First, let me preface that I am not a huge “lesson plan” educator kinda guy. Often times, lesson plans are more of a “dog and pony show” than actually containing value for both the student and the teacher. And for those of you who know me, you know that I believe education should be anything but “fake.” Who should lesson plans be for anyway? I have never had a student come up to me and ask, “What does your lesson plan look like today?” Needless to say, I am more of an agenda/syllabus teacher. Anyway… I digress…

Lesson plans…

Always thought out, methodical, on schedule, time-consuming, TTW, TSW aligned with the pacing guide, etc… (I’m worn out just typing this…)

But what about now? Where is the idea of lesson plans with teaching via Zoom or virtual? Hybrid? Or any other way that is “non-traditional?” Yes, we still need a plan, but how does that look? Usually, what we start out wanting in not always what we get…

Of all the “stuff” that lesson plans are to contain, here are a few thoughts of mine… during this time of the “unknown” as everyone calls it, that lesson plans cannot measure…

Connection – Not with the computer, but you, as the teacher. Find a way to connect with your students. Take a moment to make a moment. How do you write that on your lesson plans? Odds are, you do not… It just comes naturally. Listen to comments being made and chase some rabbits. Call out your student’s names during the lesson. Find out something about them and touch on that at different times. Subtle acts of acknowledgment go further than you realize.

Easability – Yes, that is a word in my vocabulary, and it needs to be in yours. You can teach content, have it relevant, and have it high on Bloom’s taxonomy, but please do not put extra stress on a student. Not every student in every school has the same “learning” capabilities with technology or anything else for that matter. Teach your lessons and facilitate them. As you have probably noticed with the current status we are in, not all schools are equitable and fair with their resources. This is not the student’s fault.

Opporchallengy – Yes, another made-up word that I use… Every teacher, more than likely, is teaching differently. Think about it this way… Whatever way school is set up, teachers have had to build their class culture and day-to-day activities for classes they have never seen “live.” So much is to be said for educators who have the characteristic of adaptability because they see challenges as opportunities, hence my word, opporchallengy.

Strange times to be an educator. I know there are not any quick fixes right now, and I have a lot of questions. I have a few answers too, but nobody really wants to hear them… In the end, our job is to find ways to reach students like we never have before. How do we do that? Not by lesson plans, but with you. You are that one constant in a student’s life. Be the educator they need “live” and not on paper.

Go be a great educator and leader today… Our future needs it…

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